Today I woke up around 6 and decided to take the pup for a run. I usually do this about once or twice a week because he doesn’t really enjoy running as much as you would expect a dog to.
This mornings run was just like any other, defined by: humid air, beauty, endorphins, constant encouragement from me to Shanti to keep up the pace, and more than a few flat tires from my furry friend.
However, as we got closer to the end of the run, and we began to slow our pace I began to realize how different this mornings run was from any other day. It hit me like a ton of bricks to the face, so hard that I had to stop for a minute to take it all in, to allow the corners of my mouth to spread into a grin, and to bask in the beauty of the moment.
Today was the first day since I can remember that I have been able to run (or even walk for that matter) with no pain or discomfort. While this may not seem like a big deal to the average person, it is HUGE for me.
Chronic pain is probably difficult for someone who has never experienced it to understand.. So let me put it into perspective for you.
Every year my aunt Mindy and uncle Rob rent the same beach house in Wilmington. The house is right on the water and their kids, (my cousins), myself and a few others all meet in for a week or two of “beach week”. I am so fortunate for this special time with my family, and I am eternally grateful towards my Aunt and Uncle for keeping such a beautiful tradition alive.
This year was like any other.. Except this year, both my cousin (and one of my best friends) Jesse and I were both coming back from recent adventures in Asia and per usual couldn’t wait to immerse ourselves back into beach life, family and healthy food.
I was taking a chance this year coming by to beach week. I had been experiencing lots of issues concerning my disease, was in severe pain and discomfort and was at a place where I had to make a huge decision about what to do in terms of how I was going to treat myself. Was I going to take the short, easy, Western way of doing things and put myself back on the toxic medication that had previously allowed me to live remission. Or, was I going to take a chance, go against the advice of every doctor I had ever seen and try to heal myself through diet, exercise and natural remedies.
At this point I had been walking through each day with the weight of a sumo wrestler on my heart. Every step was difficult both physically and emotionally. With everything I did there was always a chance that I wouldn’t be able to take the pain, discomfort or emotional burden any more, and that I would collapse. And I did.
It was after my cousin, her friends from France, her childhood best friend and I all went out for a ride on the boat. We had a beautiful ride with a nice balance between both going fast, crashing over waves and giving into nature by turning off the engine and allowing the waves to take us wherever their heart desired.
I had to lay down for the boat trip in it’s entirety because I was in such discomfort, and so ashamed that I couldn’t bring myself to stand, or even sit up.
When we got back to the dock I stood up to get off and lost my balance. Frustrated with myself, I grabbed the rail and tried to get off the boat. I was able to get off, but it took so much effort and involved so much discomfort that I almost gave in right then and there.
To be unable to get in and out of a boat with out pain and discomfort crushed me.
I’ve always had to live with the pain and discomfort, but I think sometimes I forget what it’s like to be “normal” until something like this happens. And when it does, it hits me…hard.
I am more times than not in pain or discomfort, and constantly aware of how I’m feeling. I try not to let on how much it all affects me, but sometimes it gets so hard that I have to speak up; to ask my mom to slow down as we walk, or to ask my friend to help me up the stairs at Red Rocks. I think this part is harder for me than the actual pain. I hate feeling weak and having to ask others to change the pace of their lives, consequently restricting themselves for my sake. This makes me feel so divided, but mostly dispirited with myself because of the inability to do things that a person my age should be able to do with ease.
So next time you get frustrated with your friend for walking slowly, for your dog not being able to keep up, for your teammate not being able to complete something I urge you to slow down, and take a minute to step back. Before you react, ask yourself why this person is unable, or is having difficulty doing something. Most times you’ll find that people don’t do things on purpose. Everyone has battles, and everyone has demons. Why should we bring each other down when we have the ability lift each other up?
Live in oneness, be aware of each others struggle(s), support one another, and spread love. We only get one life, let’s live it beautifully… together.